A lot of women have some strange ideas about what they think love should feel like or how a man should act when he is in love, mostly due to those Hollywood romance movies. Life isn’t a Hollywood movie, however, and sometimes love is right in front of us, but we don’t recognize it because it doesn’t meet our idea about what love “should be.”
Love is a tricky thing, no doubt. Lots of men say they love a woman and they don’t. Other guys just don’t know how to get the words out there, but they deeply, truly love you. How can you tell the difference? Here are the top 10 sure fire signs that he is in love with YOU.
1. He Can’t Help but Give to You
Real love is all about giving and not so much about the taking. When you really, truly feel genuine love, you can’t help but to want that person to have everything wonderful, everything they want! This doesn’t necessarily mean diamond rings, but when you see your man buying you things or giving you things you might have mentioned in passing, you will know he is in love with you.
2. He Misses You When You are Not There
No, we don’t mean he misses sex, he can get that anywhere, right? Men are funny in this regards, ladies, he will fall in love during your absence much more so than in your presence. If he disappears for days on end and says he’s been busy, how about dinner Friday? He is just not that into you. However, when you need to be apart (perhaps visting your sick mother out of town) he quickly realizes how empty his life is without your sparkle. If he is waiting for you at the airport with flowers and gives you a huge hug, he is in love with you.
3. He Pursues You
Men love a good chase, whether it be cars or women, but the truth is, when a man is in love with you, he will keep pursuing you, no matter what. This doesn’t mean he’s obsessive about it, guys who text you every 30 minutes to see what you are doing are control freaks, ladies, that is NOT love. When a man says he will call tomorrow and he does or he says he will show up for your little brother’s graduation and he does it, or when a man is willing to drop his plans so he can be with you, then you know, he is in love with you.
4. He Takes Care of You
While women are generally the caretakers in a relationship, when a man is in love, he will be sure that you also well taken care of. He might take your dog out for a walk while you are taking a nap or do the dishes because he knows you are exhausted from work. If your guy brings you chicken soup and cold medicine after work when you are sick, then you know for sure that he is in love with you.
5. The Way He Looks at You
Guys are very visual creatures. When they like what they see, they look at it. You will know your man is truly in love when he can’t stop looking at you. We don’t mean those peeks at your cleavage, we mean when he doesn’t even notice another woman, the hockey game on TV, or even the food on his plate! When he is in love with you, he will gaze into your eyes and not turn away.
6. He is Always Touching You
When a man is in love, he can’t keep his hands off you. Now, don’t mistake a man grabbing you by the waist when other guys are near, that is merely a sign of possession aimed at other men. A man will show his love with those little touches to the back of your neck, the crook of your arm, the small of your back. When he caresses your arms or runs his hand down your back, then you know he is in love with you.
7. When He Introduces You to His Friends
No matter what his friends might think, when your man is in love with you, he is proud of it. He wants to show you off and show his friends how lucky he is. Guys who aren’t that into you go out with their friends alone. When your man calls and invites you to meet his friends for dinner, then you will know for certain that he is in love with you.
8. He Makes Plans for the Future
Men that are in love start having the same dreams about the future that women do, they just sometimes take longer to talk to you about it. If your guy is making long term plans that include you, such as taking a vacation together next year, or if he starts joking about what the two of you will look like in 30 years, then you know your guy is truly in love.
9. He Can’t Stay Mad
People who are in love can’t stay really angry for more than a couple of hours because they can’t stand being apart for much longer than that! If he apologizes or says he wants to talk within a few hours after an argument, especially if he is the first to make the move to kiss and make up, then you know he is madly in love with you.
10. He Says You are Beautiful, Even if You Aren’t
OK, admit it ladies, those first few dates, you went out of your way to get your hair done, nails done, and dress to the nines for him. Now, however, you don’t think twice about putting on his old T-shirt in the morning to serve him coffee, no makeup, no high heels, your hair a complete wreck. If you look like this in the morning and he says you are the most beautiful thing he ever saw, then you know your man is super in love with you.
Don’t confuse love with lust or control, ladies. When a man loves you, he will always respect you, trust you, and let you be your own person.