If you have decided to get back into the dating game but you are unsure about where to start then you are in the right place. Dating is something that evolves over time, from the methods you use to obtain the elusive first date to what you should be doing once you have it. That being said however, there are some things that never change and if you don’t want to mess up then you really need to be avoiding doing and acting in certain ways. So what should you avoid doing if you want a date to go well? What are the ever standing dating don’ts?
Don’t let Your Nerves Eat You Alive.
If you haven’t been on date in a while then it is only natural to get nervous, especially if you really like the person who you are going on the date with. The thing is though that even though we are taught not to judge a book by its cover, people still do. The first impression you make will be the one that carries through to the decision on whether they want to see you again. This means that is really important to put a cap on your nerves. It might sound like an impossible feat but you have to consider this, if they have asked you on a date, then they probably already like you, so don’t be nervous just be yourself.
Remember that Conversation Works Both Ways.
You might be one of the funniest people alive, you might have better stories than anybody you have ever met but that doesn’t mean you should do all the talking. A date is as much about getting to know the other person as it is about them getting to know you. If you are the kind of person who finds themselves talking constantly then take a list of questions with you and use them. This might sound silly to you but nobody is going to ask for a second date from somebody who just doesn’t shut up.
Be Confident but Don’t be Forward.
There is a difference between being confident and being forward, don’t make the mistake of crossing that line. If you are on a first date then it is okay to flirt a little but if you chose to sleep with them, then don’t expect things to ever move passed the first meeting. If you really like the person you are dating then your best bet is to take things nice and slow. The last thing you want to do is give off the impression that you are easy. If however you don’t see the date going anywhere but you are still interested in having a bit of fun with the person then be as forward as you like. Just remember that once you have made the move you will not be able to unmake it.
Dating isn’t always easy, even if you are going out with someone who you really like. It’s a careful balance between showing your interest and not being too forward. If you avoid the don’ts though then you are already winning half the battle. The only thing you will have left to do is win them over with your personality and wit. If you haven’t been on a date in a while and you know you are going to get nervous then why not have a practice date. Find someone who you like but not someone you can see yourself pursuing, then you can get the initial nerves out of the way before the date that you actually want to go well.